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3 Alternatives to Time-Out That Work!

by Rebecca Eanes on Feb 20th, 2015

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2. Problem-solving is a better alternative for older children.

When a parent imposes a time-out, he or she has just taken responsibility for the child's actions and delivered a punishment. Now, in the child's mind, he has been absolved from his misbehavior. He has paid the price, and it is done. Sure, it may not have been pleasant to endure the punishment, but what skills did he learn from being grounded?

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If we want to raise responsible children, it makes sense to hold them accountable for their actions and teach them how to fix their own mistakes. Give the responsibility of the misbehavior back to the child. Some lead in questions to begin the problem-solving process are: “What happened as a result of your actions?” “How are you going to fix this?” “What can you do better next time?” “What have you learned from this?”

3. Natural consequences are good teachers if we allow them to be.

There are two problems that often hinder learning. First, we rescue our children from facing the natural consequences of their actions. Then, we pile on a punishment which distracts from the initial consequence and focuses the child on the parent's behavior rather than her own. 

Allow the natural consequences to occur when they are appropriate, and let life teach the lesson.

Rebecca Eanes, is the founder of positive-parents.org and creator of Positive Parenting: Toddlers and Beyond. She is the bestselling author of 3 books. Her newest book,Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide, is more than a parenting book, it's a guide to human connection. She has also written The Newbie's Guide to Positive Parentingand co-authored the book, Positive Parenting in Action: The How-To Guide to Putting Positive Parenting Principles in Action in Early ChildhoodShe is the grateful mother to 2 boys.

 

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