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Three Simple Steps to Effective Parenting

by Rebecca Eanes


Step Two: Be Confident

The messages you get on what “good parenting” looks like is often contradictory. The “should” and “should nots” are coming at you from all angles, and it can be difficult to feel confident that you’re making the right choices. Truthfully, you probably are, and if you’re not, your gut will tell you.

The trick is learning to tune out all the clamor so you can tune in to your intuition. Children feel secure with a parent who is both calm and confident, so have faith in yourself. You don’t have to be perfect; just show up and do your best each day.

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There are two key ways to show confidence. One is to be calm, which we just discussed, and the second is being consistent, which we are going to talk about next.

Step Three: Be Consistent

This bit of advice is probably in just about every parenting column out there, so it’s nothing you haven’t heard, but I’m going to put a positive spin on it. Yes, it is important to be consistent (though not rigid) in your rules and “discipline". But it is equally, if not more, important to be consistently playful, consistently loving, consistently encouraging, consistently happy, consistently available, consistently attentive, and consistently affectionate.

Being consistent in these areas will help you build a strong connection with your child, and that’s the real key to effective parenting.

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Rebecca Eanes, is the founder of and creator of Positive Parenting: Toddlers and Beyond. She is the bestselling author of 3 books. Her newest book,Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide, is more than a parenting book, it's a guide to human connection. She has also written The Newbie's Guide to Positive Parentingand co-authored the book, Positive Parenting in Action: The How-To Guide to Putting Positive Parenting Principles in Action in Early ChildhoodShe is the grateful mother to 2 boys.


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