Unmet Needs and Emotional Immaturity

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Reason #6: Unmet Needs

Hunger, tiredness, boredom, lack of physical activity, and nutrition can all lead to misbehavior. With careful planning, this type of misbehavior can usually be avoided. If it does occur, express empathy and try to meet the need as soon as possible.

Here are some tips:

1. Keep nutritious snacks easily accessible.

Carry crackers or something similar in your purse or bag.

2. Consistent Routines 

Create good routines that provide for adequate sleep and plenty of activity.

3. Provide enough down time.

Many kids are overwhelmed with scheduled activities. This can lead to stress, exhaustion, and poor behavior.

Reason #7: Emotional Immaturity

In my article, The Brain Science that Changes Parenting, I discuss the underdeveloped child brain. Knowing this information can help you see problem behaviors, like tantrums, in a whole new light. Understanding what is misbehavior versus what is age-appropriate behavior can help you respond positively rather than react negatively, which often makes things worse. This doesn’t mean you don’t correct it, but that you correct it with the appropriate mindset.

If your child’s misbehavior is simply a lack of maturity, try this:

1. It May Be Just A Phase

Understand that most problem behaviors, like whining or throwing food, will end as the child grows and matures. While it’s fine to correct these behaviors, focusing on them too much can backfire and cause them to occur even more. Ignore what isn’t causing harm and focus on the good.

2. Bolster Emotional Intelligence

Teach your child to label and express her emotions.

3. Use positive discipline.

This form of discipline reaches out to your child’s learning center instead of activating the fear response.

Related Article: Connection Based Discipline

Rebecca Eanes is the bestselling author of multiple books including Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide, The Positive Parenting Workbook, and The Gift of a Happy Mother. She is the grateful mom of two boys.